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Tuesday, December 14, 2010

Divorce from adultry By Shelby Jester

Persuasive Blog:

Adultery. What exactly is adultery? Adultery is another word for cheating on a person who is your legal spouse. Nowadays, adultery ends in divorce, but back in the olden days men would not be penalized as harshly for cheating on a woman, while women would be penalized brutally. Adultery has come a long way since the olden days; it is very common to see, hear, or watch about someone who has cheated and the marriages often end in divorce. However, the percentage of marriages that last after an affair have been recorded as approximately 31%.

When a person who is married is cheating there is something wrong with the marriage whether it is loss of intimacy (both physical and emotional), communication problems, financial issues, or even boredom! Adultery is acceptable under NO reason and people who cheat while being married should seriously reconsider whether they want to be in a marriage or not.

In my opinion, a couple doesn’t always have to get divorced when cheating is involved because couples are all different and the situations are different as well. Cheating can vary from a single occurrence to an on-going affair. Every person makes a mistake and has weaknesses so when a person who is married has a “one night stand” with a person who is not their spouse, that couple may be able to work out their problems. On the other hand, when a person keeps having an affair with a person who is not their spouse, they’re marriage is doomed because the person who has cheated does not seem to be committed to their relationship anymore. Even if a marriage does last after adultery there will always be a chance that that person could cheat again and their spouse will not be able to trust the cheater knowing that there is always that slim chance of another affair.

Sources:

http://www.divorceinfo.com/adultery.htm

http://www.infidelityfacts.com/infidelity-statistics.html

http://ezinearticles.com/?Who-Cheats-More---Men-or-Women?&id=440585

http://www.psychpage.com/family/mod_couples_thx/divorce.html

http://hubpages.com/hub/Top_5_reasons_for_divorce

Divorce and the children By Breanna Thomas

Divorce and Children blog:

Divorce. It happens to some of the best marriages. But who gets the kids, in the situation? Is it really fair for just one parent to get to spend time with their children? Do the children get a choice at all?

In most situations that have children in the mix, the mom gets the children. Why? Maybe the judge feels bad for the women, the children, or maybe the father can’t take care of the kids. But what if all is well with the dad of the children but the mother still gets the kids. Is that fair to the father or the children? The children need both parents in their live; otherwise they could go downhill emotionally, becoming angry or depressed. According to Lee Borden from Divorceinfo, in the real world of divorce, the judge looks at key factors like who is the “better” parent, morality in the past, their past in general, extended family who will help, etc. So hopefully, in most situations, it’s a fair trial.

The children of the divorcing parents might have an attachment with both of their parents, so how will they cope with only seeing one of them or one of them at a time? The children also might feel the pressure from both parents in a lot of different situations. The kids are gaining a permanent scar and losing their full functional family, they should at least get the chance to see both of their parents.

My opinion in this divorce avalanche is that kids should be able to say and mostly get what situation they would like to live in. Let the children have a real choice! But for the children’s and family’s sake the parents should try to work it out, before their final decision. Because divorce no matter at what point in their lives, affects everyone in the family, really bringing down the children a lot. The children may take a while to adapt to the entire fast acting, scary thing. It may affect their grades, living environment, etc. The kids may never see one of their parents in their house again, which could be traumatic to them or they may have to move out of the house they grew up in and had memories in. Would you want to do that?

Let it be about the family in a whole!

http://fatherhood.about.com/cs/divorceddads/a/divorcekids.htm

http://www.divorceinfo.com/childrencustodyreal.htm

Divorce from the children's eyes By Laurel

“For better or for worse, in sickness and in health.” These are not the typical loophole filled vows. They do not leave room for mistakes or misunderstandings. I believe that people being ‘joined in holy matrimony’ are unaware of this. Nowadays, more than half the nation’s marriages end in divorce. Soon to be newlyweds don’t usually worry about this because they think, even if it is unconsciously, there is always divorce, the easy ‘escape’.
            As a child from a broken and ruined marriage, I have seen both sides of every argument. I have seen my mother alone and struggling to make ends meet. I have watched my father recover from substance abuse and remarry. But I have yet to see something that even compares, in quality, to the times before my parents’ divorce. I am aware what people think of my opinion, ‘it’s biased, and she’s just coming from a bad divorce.’ No, what they mean is, she has come from a divorce, period because there are no ‘good divorces’. There is nothing ‘good’ about splitting your belongings, your home, and your children.
            I have heard the excuses: abuse, infidelity, irreconcilable differences… I find it hard to believe someone could not be aware of these issues before a marriage. These couples give up too easily, how dare they say they have tried their hardest? Surely every obstacle they face is just a test on how strongly they have committed to their vows.
            These couples are not considering how their ‘break-up’ might affect not only their children, but their whole family. Mother-in-laws once deep conversations quickly become awkward bump-ins at the supermarket or maybe even rude gestures. Divorces are tearing families apart. Why present a gift of love if you are only going to snatch it back when least expected?

Divorce By Tara Thomas

Divorce

When you say “I do,” you should truly mean it. When you pledge to your husband or wife that you will be faithful, truly mean that as well. One of the top reasons for divorce is based on spouses having an affair with someone whom they are not married to. Divorces are not good for the children or adults in any case.

My parents got divorced four years ago and they still argue over stupid things. My sister and I, half the time, get placed into the middle of their arguments, which stresses us out, we have enough to deal with right now. My dad’s schedule throws me and my sister off sometimes because we go to his house every third night. That means that I have to make sure that I take all of my stuff between houses and have enough clothes at my mom’s house and at my dad’s.

If you’re a parent who has been divorced or are divorced then you understand how difficult it is to deal with all of the issues that come with divorce. My parents argue over a lot of things which makes life even more difficult for them. If you are the parent who has to pay child support, then you know how tough it is to come up with the money to give and still keep up with paying for your own bills. I can only imagine how stressful it is for my dad to pay my mom child support.

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Divorce is stressful for everyone in the family. When you begin saying your vows at your wedding, make sure that you really think it through, is this marriage worth it? Or will it just be flushed down the toilet?

Sunday, December 5, 2010

History of Sneakers & Five Finger Glove Shoes- Breanna Thomas

Sneakers. A nickname that has stuck to those shoes that you use in sports or to keep your feet safe and warm. They are relatively modern, but they do have their roots in history, having their features invented back in the past.

In the 1800’s the first rubber-soled shoe called plimsols was invented. It was the first sort-of shoe that was safe, but did not have a specific shoe for the left or right foot. Goodyear and other companies all started using rubber to make shoes, by then. By the 1900’s different tennis shoes were being produced, mostly for b-ball. And then those little sneakers that started out just as rubber soles went international in 1924. Do they now have competition?

“Those Things”. The modern shoes that are slowly becoming famous have gotten the attention of the sportsy and outdoorsy people of the world. They are the five-finger glove shoes. Why would anyone come up with this crazy concoction of a shoe? Well recent studies have shown that no one has the structure of a normal foot anymore; they have feet and posture that adapt to the types of shoes that they were. Like I wear flip flops and you may wear heels or sandals, and your feet probably look just like the shape of your shoes. So to rediscover the “real” foot, they have constructed a shoe to fit the normal foot. Putting the toes in the right place, making the feet stronger and healthier, and your balance, agility, and proprioception improvement comes with the package.

So which shoe is better? The tennis shoe that has its roots in the industrial industry or the modern five-finger glove shoe that is giving you your real foot back? You decide.

http://www.vibramfivefingers.com/

http://workoutiq.com/blog/2008/10/09/barefooting-review-of-vibram-five-finger-shoes/

http://www.factmonster.com/ipka/A0932723.html

http://www.sneakerhead.com/sneaker-history-p1.html

History of Flip Flops- Shelby Jester

Flip Flops. Two little words everyone knows and a type of shoe that EVERYONE has worn in their life in at least one point. Why exactly do they call them flip flops you may ask? The answer is actually very obvious; they flip and flop when you walk. But did you ever think that those shoes, like anything else we use, could have a history behind them? Did you know that flip flops are one of the oldest known footwear to man? Flip flops have been around for nearly six thousand years. Would you believe it? Well there’s more, depictions have been found in ancient Egyptian mural from around 4,000 B.C. Think about it, back in the older times what kind of shoes did you see on peoples’ feet? The sandals in earlier times were made form papyrus, straw, rawhide, etc. Several centuries later, supposedly, an American soldier brought a pair of Zori (traditional Japanese sandals)when he came back home from WWII. By the 1950s, a similar style to the Zori (made of rubber) was worn by Americans when they went to the beach or pool. However, no one would wear the shoes anywhere but to the pool and beach. It was in the 1960s that people truly started to wear flip slops everywhere. Nowadays, flip-flops are a $2 billion industry in the United States and that is just per year! I bet you never really thought about all of the history that was truly behind that $3 pair of flip flops you slip onto your feet every morning. Flip flops, so last year? Not quite ;)

History of Heels- Laurel

Today, when someone asks where high heels first began, they might reply, ‘oh, in New York on the great Fashion Week runways.’ Although this may be true for the heels of Prada, Gianni Bini, Gucci, or Chanel, it is not where high heels originally came from. High heels were first introduced in China as platform shoes worn by butchers. The height of the shoes kept the feet from being touched by unclean substances. These shoes then had layers added o them, making them a height of thirty inches. The thirty inch heels were then called chopines. Not only did the height of these shoes show status, they were also given to wives, hoping that the new and cumbersome height would make it difficult to sneak around, preventing affairs.
Later, and after the Middle Ages, high heels were being used by horse back riders, though the heel had been shrunken to a small one and a half inch to two inch heels. These were said to better grip the stirrups, giving a better ride. High heels were worn by both men and women, but made fashionable by queens. The first queen to wear high heels did so because her husband’s, the King, mistress was very tall and she wanted to eliminate this ‘competition.’
Entering the 17th Century, high heels became associated with witchcraft and the ‘art of seducing.’ This was not an uncommon thought as high heels had, previously in time, been the mark of prostitutes. For a good stretch of history, heels disappeared altogether, the cause: banishment. Napoleon found they gave a feeling of inequality and they slowly shrunk to just a small slip of leather inserted into the sole of a shoe. Not much of a ‘lift’, if you’ll excuse my pun.
High heels entered America in the 19th century, imported from French brothels. High heels have continued to grow, the availability and variety spreading. They have gone from platforms to pumps, wedges to spikes, short to thin, and more. They are now more popular than ever, being worn by everyone, ages ranging from five years to one hundred years.

History of Boots- Tara Thomas

There are many different styles and types of boots and they were all started by different people. One certain type of cowboy boot, called Justin Boots, began in 1879 and was started by H.J. Justin. H.J. left Lafayette to go to Texas to originally become a shoe repairman but soon began a boot company. One pair of Justin Boots began at eleven dollars a pair but now they are around one hundred to one hundred and fifty dollars. The company kept on growing larger and larger after John Justin Jr. bought the company. After the company went through owners, the company became stronger then ever and started selling their high-quality boots.

Wellington boots were made by a man, Hoby. He was instructed to modify the Hessian 18th century boot. The boot is made of calfskin leather and apparently was a “transformation on previous Hessian boot.” The boots used to have a layer of wax on them to keep them water proof but they soon realized that the boots would be lighter without the wax and they decided to make the boots out of rubber. The boots were at first produced in small quantities but are now produced in larger quantities because of the higher demand for them.

Ugg boots began coming around, around 1930 and Australian sheep shearers wore Uggs to keep them warm during that same time. In 1978, Uggs came to America, an Australian surfer brought a bag of Uggs and showed them to surfers. The boots then began to gather attention and were very high-priced.